Have you ever contemplated how you would cope if your world was turned upside down. Its not something that I ever took the time to consider. As an adult, it has now happened twice, firstly when I was 24 years old and diagnosed with Crohn’s disease and most recently when my partner of 20 years was on his annual golf trip (this year at Yarrawonga).
It was Saturday night the 21st of November, the kids had finally gone to sleep. My mobile rang and as I did not recognise the number, I let it go through to message bank. A private number then phoned and I let that go as it is usually an overseas call with someone trying to sell me something. Little did I know what had happened that day.
Sunday morning I phoned Trev on his mobile and was surprised that he was whispering as it was 10am and surely everyone was awake by now. I boldly said to Trev, “why are you whispering?” He replied because I am in hospital….”.WHAT”…. The boys tried to call you last night, I have dislocated my knee and the doctors believe that I have torn the 4 major ligaments in my knee but they don’t know for sure as it is so swollen.
As an Anatomy & Physiology lecturer I felt sick. Firstly for Trev, for the pain, surgery, and rehabilitation to follow. Secondly, for myself as it was five weeks prior to Christmas and there was simply too much to take on as a sole parent to two active boys (4&6 years).
My head is spinning, how are we to survive?....Two businesses, two casual jobs, two boys, a swimming pool, an acre…..mortgage payments, bills, etc…
Trev has a painting business. Has he invoiced any clients for November? What upcoming jobs have to be done? Who will pick up one of his workers from the station who does not drive, What paint is required for the jobs? Additional phone calls to clients & workers? Does he have income insurance?
Who will look after the kids when I’m working (as I work in the evening as well as on weekends)? Who will mind the kids when I have functions that I have donated products to and would like to attend to represent my business.
Oh S….so not prepared for this……and the extended hospital stay (24 days) associated with an infection and heart complications that had the medical emergency team baffled. To make matters worse, the boys had to witness several doctors and machines around their dad.
To say I have been busy, overwhelmed, stressed and in tears is an understatement. The reason that I have coped is purely due to some amazing people. I sincerely want to say thank-you, especially since I may not see you in person so close to Christmas and at the moment I can’t bare anymore phone calls.
I apologise in advance if I has missed anyone as I have been in a bit of a fog and on auto piolet. I send thanks and gratitude to all the wonderful people in my life.
Ursula Drake, Julie Batey, Paul Nathalie Nunn, Sally Topfer, Megan Worsfold, Helen Browne, Stephen Rosbrook for helping with our children during kinder or school drop off or pick up, taking them to sport or even a play date. And to others for their sincere offer of assistance; Jess Jones, Sarah Michael, Emma Bucknell, Paul Nathalie Nunn, Natalie from Loved It Market, Jody Nafiz, Sharon Williams and Bronwyn Helmore.
Beckii Jones from Indigo Whispers Organics for providing a box of organic vegetables (as I had missed the order cut off for a few consecutive weeks) and Julie Batey for delivering them to my door.
Paul Nathalie Nunn, Damien Batey and Erol Nafiz for playing footy with the boys at Luke’s party when the kids were really missing their dad.
Paul Nathalie Nunn, Damien Batey, Jamie Zuidema and Andrew Drake for being amazing PT clients and letting me off load my stress while they continued to happily train.
Everyone who attended my Christmas market or placed an order Julie Batey, Paul Nathalie Nunn, Jody Nafiz, Jody Lonsdale, Terry Dimond, Megan Worsfold, Sally Topfer, Carolyn Harli, Jessica Humphreys and Jamie Zuidema.
Mark from @m2designandconstruction for his prompt payment of an invoice.
Paul Nathalie Nunn and Scott Worsfold for offering to mow our lawn.
Gaynor Lawton for inviting me to join her group Coffee Collective to promote my business
Craig Williams for doing an urgent painting job
Ron & Carol Dunstan for your very kind and generous offer.
Ian Rees for talking through business and financial matters.
Cheryl Selby for the many hours of child minding, emotional support, house upkeep and bringing over groceries.
Mornington BMW supplying the major prize (a weekend to drive the BMW of my choice) at the recent Soar Collective Christmas party.